How to Lead by Sharing Your Story
(This blog is part of a series of blogs I have shared over the past weeks regarding leadership lessons learned from our Ultimate Immersion Experience to Spain.)
When our leadership team went to Spain, we knew that the experience would be filled with fun, sun, coffee, cuisine, culture, and history. We also knew that we would be in for an action-packed leadership experience marked by events, challenges and experiences that would all force our team to grow and lead.
A big part of the experience was engaging the team to dig into and share their stories. One of the things that I recall most from our time together were the times where we would sit and share our stories with each other. These stories shed light into how and why we are the way we are, believe what we believe, and behave the way we do; all these things are what ultimately drive us. We shared with each other the joys, excitements and wonders of life as well as the trials, pain and hurts we have experienced. All in all, the events of our lives are the things that have shaped and defined us. Sharing this with each other allowed us to gain deeper perspective and understanding into each other’s lives.
When it comes to leading others, a leader must have a deep understanding of their story. Not only how to share it, but to help others discover and explore their story. Think of story exploration as a process of peeling back layers of an onion, each layer a life experience. The more you peel back, the more you can get to the core of what a person carries within them. These things are the driving forces and values of one’s life.
Here are a few tips and lessons I am reflecting on when it comes to sharing your story, and how we shared ours during our Ultimate Immersion Experience:
- You may have never shared your story with anybody before. Don’t worry! Ask somebody for some of their time and just share. Share an experience that has impacted you or was a significant memory, and just speak about it. Don’t worry about how it comes out, just share.
- As you share your story, look for the lessons learned within it. What have you carried from this experience you just shared? How has it shaped and defined you? Do the results of this story and what you carry from it empower and serve you? Do they disempower and sabotage you?
- Don’t compare your story to anybody else’s. Many times, we fall into the comparison trap, wishing we had a story that was as action packed, adventure filled, or exciting as another individuals. Remember, your story is your story, it is powerful. It matters. It is unique. Own it and lean into it. Be proud of it and share it well.
- The more you share your story, the more you will become in touch with it. It will become easier to find, remember, and recall small details that will expose more of the lessons and treasures within. As you are sharing, allow others to dig into your story with you and help you uncover more of it.
- Practice makes perfect. The more you share your story, the better you will become at telling it. Keep it up!
Challenging and encouraging you today to own your story, be proud of your story, share it with the world, and use it to inspire and empower others.
Remember 3 things:
I love you.
I believe in you.
You’ve got this.
Now, go get it!